What's the deal w/ women who put down your pregnancy/birth decisions?!?!?
Ok ladies,
A little vent here, but I do have a point... Am 24 weeks pregnant with my first bebe, and have strong (educated!) feelings about planning for a natural birth, breastfeeding, and cloth diapering. Some ppl... ok, namely the in-laws... have had no hesitation in questioning my plans, telling me that I'll be begging for an epidural, that cloth diapering is messy & time consuming (not true!), that breastfeeding is hard & probably won't work (not true!!), etc. etc. When I try to rationalize with them and explain that the evidence shows otherwise... or at the least, that I've made up my mind and am confident that I will be doing the right thing for both myself and my babe... I get, "Oh, just you wait."
"Just you wait?" Oh really?! wth. So why do people think that you are incapable of making decisions just because you haven't been through the experience yet? I'm a grown adult and think I know what's best for myself. It's one thing for ppl to offer suggestions from their own experiences, but it's another thing to tell you that you don't know what you're doing b/c it's different than how they did things.
Anyone else had to deal with this? Anyone have a good response to share that I might be able to use? 
Thx u ladies, I appreciated hearing from everyone (except Seth - Who trolls around on pregnancy sites?? Loser.) and your encouragement to stay strong w/ my plans.
That being said, I don't judge women whose plans differ from my own (for ex., having an epi) b/c we all have the right to choose and who am I to tell them what's right? Also, I am willing to be flexible with my plans - I'll try a natural birth, but if it's too much then I would ask for pain meds. I don't know... but I know what I want to TRY and do for myself & baby. It would just be great to have support now instead of telling me all the reasons why I'm wrong already - I just don't believe that, nor is it helpful to say the least!
It just helps to have people say, you can do it & be strong! I also appreciate hearing ppl explain where the in-laws might be coming from - but they say it a lot nicer than the in-laws themselves, so thx.
ps. I don't know who is giving thumbs down - I give thumbs up to you!!
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